Some "Marriages-Relationships-Aftermath -- Blah! Blah!" crap.
The fable of a multitude of so called modern
relationships is a variation on a common theme: the conspiracy between men and
women to murder the Powerful. Usually when we think of power, or two married
souls ponder over it or even more when just two opposite sexes get pensive
about the power of power.-they think of external powers, and of powerful people
who have institutionalized “marriage” in the world. And
being victimized by this powerful notion I used to think I needed a
powerful man, someone who could protect me from the harshness and evils of the
dirty world. What I've cum to realize is that evils of the
ugly world that confront me every now and then-mostly when I’m all by
myself-are a reflection of my own dilemma, my internal state, my mind. The
powerful man I was looking for would be primarily, someone who supported me in
keeping me on track spiritually and help me maintain clarity within me that
life would pose fewer problems.
I no longer yearn for a husband who would say to me,
“Don’t worry, honey. If they are mean to you, I’ll beat them up or buy them
out”. Instead my only heart pines for a life partner who prays with me
regularly so that fewer monsters from the outer world disturb me, and who, when
they do, guides me to look within my own consciousness for answers to combat
false patriarchal power.
And I believe this is what every girl and the woman in her desires in her
perspective of the institution of marriage. Both men and women at some point in
time do incline to marry. But how much of their desire is natural and how much
of it is cultural is still remains a million dollar question. What is certainly
natural is our desire for the beloved. What is cultural is our tendency to
forget that a piece of paper cannot tie hearts together. The issue is not
whether we marry but whether we allow any choice of lifestyle to impinge on
their ability to fly.
I once heard someone say that women, married ones in
particular can’t write for nuts. I don’t believe this is true, but I understand
what it means. The crux of the matter is marriage is not a mere convention but
it is often looked as one and, as such, will sink instead of uplifting a
woman’s spirit.
Today, with the advent of technology and various
social networking boards, I see relationships losing their sanctity. It’s all
in the open, and it’s mostly more of open ones. Trust is ever losing. Like all
other things, people flaunt break-ups and separation more prominently than
engagements. One cheating on the other is a clichéd story. And the
impact of these sites is so much that a girl literally ended her life reading
her husband’s latest status about their ‘’spiltsville’!!!
Huh! Is that all we value relationships for??? I’m
afraid if our relationships agree to this in the affirmative!!!
Let technology serve our love for one another. And
not for our mutual destruction. Let intelligence lead us to peace and not to
war; to commitment that involves complete surrender. Let our actions be used to
heal and not to further wound.
Being in a relationship means much more than
fighting, cheating, doubting, and then separating! And as women we must keep
this message alive. We must understand its importance and relay it to others.
Whispering it in the dark and shouting it in the light of the day.
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Yeaaaah! I’m done. That’s it!